So… I know that I wasn’t really suppose to “jump” into things but… Who would I be if I didn’t. Yes I have changed for the greater good. My workouts are going great, my job is taking off very well, and I am finally piecing some things around my townhouse with furniture ideas and other decorative things.
But when I was working at the Sheriff Department one of the deputies wouldn’t stop asking why I was still single. He kept going on about how it’s a “big deal” that someone in uniform doesn’t have at least a lady friend to see. I just kept telling him I don’t have the time. He found that very hard to believe since I’m one of the youngest deputies in the whole department so he figured I have more time than I say I do.
He suggested, as a joke, that I make at least an online dating profile. I laughed at the idea and said “I don’t have that little of free time. I can at least find someone once I get my life situated.”
The deputy just laughed it off with a “sure you will” and walked away. Well I started to think about what he said. Even though it was a joke I do actually know a lot of people who have had success stories from using such websites.
Success as in getting into a serious relationship and eventually getting married, not getting laid…
So once I got home I made a profile real quick on Match and my curiosity began to take off. After one day of having it I had already talked to so many people. A lot of them seemed like decent potential. One really stuck out though. Someone I didn’t really think would really catch my attention.
Her and I started talking through messages and finally she asked me “Hey you used to work at a hospital didn’t you?” And I almost dropped my phone. I said “yeah I used to work in their law enforcement department. Why do you ask?”
She said “you probably don’t recognize me, but I was blonde a few months ago. I always thought you were really cute but I was always too nervous to go up and talk to you. I was wondering where you went. Where do you work now?”
So I told her that I started working at a Sheriff Department more on the east side of the state. After exchanging conversations on the app for a few hours I finally gave her my number. She texted me almost immediately. I finally asked if she wanted to meet up. To my surprise she agreed.
So we meet in the middle at a lake and decided to go for a quick walk. Well that walk ended up being a very long one due to lots of road construction and detours on the walking paths. We didn’t care though. We kept walking until the sun set.
We finally found a park bench and sat by the lake. We just kept talking about whatever happened to cross our mind. She eventually interrupted the conversation and said “look at the moon over the lake!”
It was a full moon. So bright it almost felt like it wasn’t even late at night. After a while of just staring at it we got tired of getting bit by bugs. I walked her to her car to say goodnight. Again she surprised me and asked if I was free the next day. I said absolutely. She told me she could hang out after church and she would text me as soon as possible. She also asked me to text her once I got home so she would know I made it home safe. Funny how I do that to people.
We hugged and left. It was odd. I called my sister about the first date. She was just as shocked as I was. I always kissed a girl on the first date, but this girl was different. I was more curious as to where this could lead. She told me exactly what she wants in a relationship upfront. She wants something serious with someone who could handle the pace she wants to go.
All the time I have always been blocked or pushed back because no one could handle my pace. Now finally I have met someone who literally makes me feel like I have found that one who is exactly like me.
See the last girl I was with said this. There are seven billion people on this planet. At least ten million are just like yourself. There is a very small chance that you will ever find someone that is exactly like you. Until then you won’t ever have success in finding the true one.
So I think I found that one girl who is just like me. Someone who wants something serious, but doesn’t want to dive into it either.
The next day we met in a very small country side town. We went antique shopping and eventually went to a small local zoo. It was fun just walking around in the hot sun. We never had a dull moment. And when it was time to go home I walked her to her car again. She asked when she could see me again. I told her my schedule and she laughed and said “maybe it will be hard to find free time if you weren’t so busy”. She gave me a kiss and said goodbye. I stuttered, embarrassingly enough, and my voice cracked a bit when I said goodbye. She laughed to herself and waved goodbye.
It was just one kiss that literally made me feel weird and off my game like that. No girl has ever done that to me. I am usually the one who makes the move but even on the second date I didn’t. And yet she did. I admitted my shyness to her through text and she laughed. She said she could kind of tell and knew that I was the right one for her. She appreciated me not rushing into anything physical and wanting to get to know her instead of getting to know her body.
And now today we are going out to gather stuff for a picnic. I am a bit nervous as to where we will go from here. She is already house shopping for me (she is a Realtor) and wants me to move to a more country part of the state. She grew up in one of those one traffic light towns and wants me to experience it for myself.
I am a bit nervous about one major thing. Meeting her parents. She did warn me that her step-dad is the one to impress. If he doesn’t like me, there is no chance. I have never had a dad like me. I’ve had them say nice things about me, but for some reason every girl I have dated in the past if overly protective of their daughter. But it sounds like her step-dad has always wanted her to find someone nice.
One big thing though… he is a Vietnam war vet which scares me a bit since I am Asian. I don’t know what kind of combat or action he has seen, but I’m sure me being in the service will help break that ice/tension. I think he also wants her to date a guy with a respectable job and what better job there is than law enforcement.
Only time will tell I guess. I am glad that things are panning out slowly.
I feel like this is something from a Match commercial. Like literally these are the stories people hear and never believe and yet I am living proof. Not saying it’s for everyone, but for me it has worked so fast. But I don’t want to come to a super quick assumption just yet. I’ll see where this will head in the next few weeks.
But for now we can’t stop texting each other and she is always wondering how work is going for me. She says she has already told a few of her co workers at her office that she’s dating a cop. Uh oh… Now they are all going to want to see me sooner or later.
Wish me luck!